An NYT article is getting a lot of attention, at least in the LGBT world. Published last Friday, “After Gay Son’s Suicide, Mother Finds Blame in Herself and in Her Church” is an honest conversation with the parents of Tyler Clementi, the first year Rutger’s student in September 2010 who took his own life three weeks after arriving:
… he jumped off the George Washington Bridge after discovering that his roommate had used a webcam to spy on him having sex and that he had sent out Twitter messages encouraging others to watch.
Writing at Down With Tyranny, Ken states:
This interview with Tyler Clementi’s parents will save lives. Can it also penetrate the walls of ignorance and hate of organized LGBT-phobes?
It’s a powerful, honest conversation. From the NYT piece:
The Clementis continue to blame the bad luck of a roommate lottery and the cowardice of students who failed to step up and say that the spying was wrong.
But their son’s suicide has also forced changes, and new honesty, upon them. They have left the church that made Ms. Clementi so resistant to her son’s declaration. Their middle son, James, acknowledged what the family had long suspected and said that he, too, was gay. The family is devoting itself to a foundation promoting acceptance with the hope of preventing the suicides of gay teenagers. …
(Ms. Clementi) … blames religion for the shame surrounding it – in the conversation about coming out, Tyler told his mother he did not think he could be Christian and gay. …
She decided she could no longer attend her church, because doing so would suggest she supported its teachings against homosexuality. And she took strength from reading the Bible as she reconsidered her views.
‘At this point I think Jesus is more about reconciliation and love,’ she said. ‘He spoke more about divorce than homosexuality, but you can be divorced and join a church more than you can be gay and join churches.’
(Photo via Tyler Clementi Foundation)