Still here but just sad…
22 May 2009 6:22 pm by Jane Austen
http://www.womenshealth.gov/FAQ/organ-donation.cfm
I haven’t deserted the TM site. I’ve actually been reading every day just to provide some levity in my life. My family and friends are shrouded in a fog of grief and saddness. Four weeks ago my nephew suffered a cerebral anuerysm. He never smoked and drank the obligatory beer at our gathrings. In other words he was one of the healthiest people I’ve ever known. He was my sons’ best friend besides being their cousin. Steve was declared clinically dead 3 days later and all life support was terminated 24 hours later. He was 40 years old, has one son, 10, and another due in July. I was his God mother and adored him. He was eating spagetti in my dining room the night before he became ill.
The family consented to donating his organs, all of them and whatever other parts of his body could be used for the good of others. As many as 50 people could benefit from this kindness, including my youngest son who will, in the next several months receive bone grafts for his leg from his cousin.
If you have never thought of organ donation, please do so today. I’ve provided a link that not only answeres questions about organ donation but gives you the organizations that are involved in this program. I hope you all have long healthy lives but life is funny. We never know what is going to happen on any given day. (If you had told me this healthy young man would be gone today I would never have believed it.) And donating is the ultimate gift that we can give.
Sadly, Steve’s father followed him 13 days later, a victim of kidney cancer.
I’ll be back posting on a regular basis but I need time to come back to the living. They say “tears are for the living.” I need to shed mine for a little while longer.
Love to you all – Jane Austen
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JA -
Thank you so much for sharing and God bless you and your family. What you have posted makes all conversation here seem small and unimportant. Thanks for bring perspective.
Love to you and yours.
Oh, JaneAusten. I’m just heartbroken for you. What an impossible chokingly difficult thing to experience.
I’m just glad you know people were thinking about you and missed your presence. But thanks for checking in. So appreciate it.
Take all the time you need; just take care of yourself and heal. Meditations and prayers sent in your direction.
Jane
I am so saddened by your losses. Please know that your nephew , you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh JA I am saddened and heartbroken for you and your family. Know that you are in my prayers. It never gets easy losing a loved one. Especially when they are either our child or a relative that is the age of your children.
As Taylor says, take all the time you need, we will all be here to support you when you come back. Love and prayers to you all.
Sad story but I’m proud of families like yours that turn the pain into positive action through organ donation….
all the best JA.
Jane Austen,
I am so glad you posted today. I was wondering where you went. I am very sorry for your losses. This is such a painful time for you and your family, but know that there are people here who support you and miss you. When you are ready to return, we will be waiting with open arms. Take care, JA.
Jane~
I have been missing your warm,wise,funny voice. I’m sure you are a comfort to your family. I hope that good man of yours is a comfort to you.
So sad,so sorry for your loss.
So very sorry to hear/read of your loss and pain.
My Nephew consented to donating whatever they could us when my sister died in Dec. and even though she had been a crack user right up to the end they were able to use her Kidney and eyes. I hope everyone uses the link you so thoughtfully provided and signs up.
JA, I’m so sorry to hear about your nephew. You and your family are in my prayers. Please take heart — this too shall pass.